What to Say to an Attempter
Realize the person who attempted suicide did not do so to victimize you.
This is not about you.
While statistics show arguments are a catalyst for a suicide attempt, or completion, it is not your responsibility how another human being chooses to react. Remember events in lives do not cause suicide. The suicide attempter may blame you publicly. It is your choice to take on that blame or you can accept their actions are their choice.
Do: Offer support, understanding and love if possible. If that is not possible excuse yourself from the situation or that person’s life. If you cannot help, choose to not hurt. Offer to create a safety plan. Offer to be a part of that safety plan and help out when needed in the healing process of the person’s life.
“I am not sure how to help you but I will stay with you.”
“I am here for you and we will get through this together.”
“You are not alone.”
“You are important to me”
“I am here for you.”
“Tell me how I can help you now.”
“Your life is important to me.”
“I may not know exactly how you feel but I do care about you and want to help you.”