What’s your super power? Better question: What are your super powers?
You do have more than one super power. You do. If I asked you, “What is your weakness?” I bet you can answer that question with five answers without blinking your eye, most humans can. We are told our weaknesses often, even by people who love us and think they are saying it kindly or doing us a favor. In fact, they are doing you a favor.
What are those weaknesses? Can you look at them as strengths and list them as such?
I saw this on a t-shirt: I am a woman. What is your super power?
I thought it was clever and empowering. I also realized how many people are raised believing being a woman is not only, not a super power, but a liability, a shame, a burden. It made me think of the things I heard recently that were phrased as a liability, not a power and made me wonder if we rephrased all of those beliefs into power what would we feel like?
One of my partners at work recently described herself to a colleague. She said, “I am an introvert.” The colleague said, “Don’t sell yourself short like that.” I thought, “What?” There is something beautiful about people who know themselves and can be honest about it with others. Most introverts are able to navigate professional, personal, and social situations as well as an extrovert. They simply require more self care on the back and front end. They don’t gather their energy from social interactions, they expend it. That isn’t a liability, it is a part of a symbiotic relationship we have as humans with each other. It isn’t that being an introvert is less than, or that being an extrovert is greater than. It is that being that part of an ecosystem is valuable, and it should be valued.
At a leadership training recently I was described by the facilitator as sensitive. I cringed. I know with every fiber of my being I could be labeled as a person with Hyper Sensitivity Disorder. I know I am sensitive because of how the simplest things affect me deeply. I know I am sensitive because I am told it on a weekly basis. I was hoping I could walk into this leadership training with a cloak of armor on, and avoid who I am. I did not. And then the facilitator said, “Being sensitive isn’t a bad thing. I am really glad you are here and are willing to bravely speak your truth. I think others will learn a lot from you if they are willing to.”
Following are a few statements I have heard recently that can be rephrased this way. What others can you think of?
I am nice. What is your super power?
I am an introvert. What is your super power?
I am sensitive. What is your super power?
I am a freak. What is your super power?
I am smart. What is your super power?
I am shy. What is your super power?
I am strong. What is your super power?
I am a people pleaser. What is your super power?
We are all able to describe ourselves and others. I challenge you to use those descriptive words and see them as a strength, as an asset, as a super power, and see how it changes your life and how you see yourself, and how you see others.